Sometimes they drive me crazy
Today is such a day. Woke up in the morning and everything is fine. Did my morning routine (boil water, ironing etc) while the Daddy lay in bed a little while more. After having his milk he needed to poo. Told the Daddy to help him while I went downstairs to continue the rest of my morning routine. And then I heard it, the shouting battle between those two.
I just don’t understand why. Ethan can be so fussy with Daddy at times resulting in raised voices from both parties. It drives me up the wall to see both of them like that. There was once after listening to both of them bickering with the Daddy saying Ethan is very stubborn not listening to him, I took Ethan away and questioned him what went wrong. He answered, “Daddy doesn’t listen to me”.
Ethan makes my blood boil at times and surely I raised my voiced at him too. It will all end in silence as I’m very good at giving silent treatment. I will just seized to speak when I’m angry and keep quiet for a prolonged time. Ethan will always end up admitting he is naughty but if I question him again he will softly say that we don’t listen to him.
It breaks my heart each time this situation arise. I told Ethan directly that I do not want to stay home to look after him anymore. I want to go out and work. I don’t want all these fighting!
When I sit down and reflect on what just happened each time after we fight, I realised that each time Darling and I raised our voice, it sends the wrong signal to Ethan; it taught Ethan that it’s ok to shout to release anger. Hence he’ll shout too the next time he is angry. We expect him to listen to us because we are superior, but he wants to be heard too no matter how inferior he is.
I get angry and scold Ethan upon his mischief. I think it’s alright because I’m with him 24/7. And then the Daddy who spends lesser time with Ethan came home and ended up arguing with him pisses me off. Why? Because I thought that he’s supposed to be the GOOD one. What I did not see is that, the Daddy had a tiring day outside working and when he gets home, instead of getting some rest, the first thing Ethan did was to get his attention. Ethan can be really impatient at times resulting in those fights.
And when they fight I got agitated as I’ve had a long day with Ethan alone and all I need was some rest and peace now that the Daddy is home but all I got is more fights…
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I am a mother to two boys; Ethan and Ayden and a wife to Darling William. I'm a stay at home mum who blogs to break the monotony of life and to avoid feeling jaded. Would love to get to know all the Super Mommies and Daddies and Babies or Singles out there with the hope that we can learn more from each other. Most of all, I am a happy person, and I hope YOU are too.
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