What NOT to do when leaving your child at school…
What do YOU do if your child clings on to you and refuses to let you go each time you drop him/her at school?
2 way out…
1) Tell your child you’ll watch over him/her from behind the door and ‘shoo’ him/her into the classroom with the pretext that you’ll wait for them there. Once the child is safely inside you sneak yourself out from the school.
2) Tell your child clearly that she/he needs to get into the class and you’ll be there again by the time the class is over. Give him/her a hug and a kiss and say your Goodbyes and leave.
Never ever attempt No 1. Why?
You’ll be lying to your child. By telling your child that you’ll wait for him/her outside the classroom will only make it worse. The child will constantly be on the look out for you. Once they discovered that you are no where to be seen, they’ll get agitated and restless. They won’t be able to concentrate in class and will keep on looking for you. They will feel betrayed and find it hard to trust you ever again. THIS indirectly promotes ‘lies’ in your relationship with your child…
Whenever you say Goodbye to your child in the future, he/she will be filled with fear that you’ll disappear… You won’t want that to happen, would you?
Always try No 2. Why?
Always treat your child as an ‘adult’. Trust in him/her. Never underestimate them. Talk to them before hand. Tell them tomorrow they are going to school. Ask them if they like school and if not, ask them why. Talk things through with them.
Tell them clearly that they need to be in the class and reassures them that you’ll be there again once the class is over; they’ll have the comfort of knowing that if they go through the lessons, they’ll be able to see you again after class. They are also assured with lots of love that they are not being ‘abandoned’ and Mommy/Daddy meant what they say.
When you say Goodbye, they will feel loved and not betrayed…
The above are just my personal opinions. Now that I’m teaching again and the kids are as young as 18 months old, I’ve SEEN what No 1 and No 2 do to them. Trust me, No 1 works for a short period but over the long run, No 2 RULES!
Kids need to know WHY they are going to school. They need to LOVE going to school. They need to feel SAFE in school.
Ask yourself, what are you doing to make all those a reality? Lying to them is definitely not helping…
By the way, Ethan is doing fine in school without me and I’ve overcome MY separation anxiety. You see, I published this post while Ethan is in school right now :D
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